This month, August 2017, marks two years since my spouse came out to me as a transgender woman. While I am amazed at how far we have come as a couple and a family since that day, looking back now, I am in awe of my wife’s courage.
You spun a life of lies and secrets. Now the secret is out.
Microaggressions are little attacks on people of marginalized groups. When my wife and I came out, we were not met with overtly obvious hate. We were introduced to microaggressions instead.
Passing the time during our commute home from work, my wife and I began talking about sexual orientation. We talk about the weirdest stuff when we are…… Read more “Not Gay, Not Straight. Just Me.”
Last Spring, I called my father and told him that my wife was transgender.
Faith: (noun) ‘firm belief in something for which there is no proof’ – Merriam-Webster
Faith is a tough feeling to pin down with words (hence why I went to Merriam-Webster). So when I started relying on this thing ‘faith’ it took me by surprise. Why do I use this to comfort my wife and myself through our transition?
What makes cis spouses stay in a marriage through transition?
I love my husband and I love my wife. I didn’t expect this: that I would love so intimately a man and a woman at the same time. But, today, this is where I find myself.