This month, August 2017, marks two years since my spouse came out to me as a transgender woman. While I am amazed at how far we have come as a couple and a family since that day, looking back now, I am in awe of my wife’s courage.
You spun a life of lies and secrets. Now the secret is out.
Microaggression: Hostility After Coming Out
Microaggressions are little attacks on people of marginalized groups. When my wife and I came out, we were not met with overtly obvious hate. We were introduced to microaggressions instead.
Not Gay, Not Straight. Just Me.
Passing the time during our commute home from work, my wife and I began talking about sexual orientation. We talk about the weirdest stuff when we are…… Read more “Not Gay, Not Straight. Just Me.”
Coming Out to My Dad
Last Spring, I called my father and told him that my wife was transgender.
Faith in Family
Faith: (noun) ‘firm belief in something for which there is no proof’ – Merriam-Webster
Faith is a tough feeling to pin down with words (hence why I went to Merriam-Webster). So when I started relying on this thing ‘faith’ it took me by surprise. Why do I use this to comfort my wife and myself through our transition?
Why Spouses Stay?
What makes cis spouses stay in a marriage through transition?
A Husband and a Wife
I love my husband and I love my wife. I didn’t expect this: that I would love so intimately a man and a woman at the same time. But, today, this is where I find myself.